Protect Us Muslim Women Mr Sadiq Khan - Before Asking Us To Step Up For Brits
|Me With My Muslim British Bangladesh family on Umra Hajj - part of my religious induction|
I just read Labour Party’s Mayor of London candidate Sadiq Khan’s astonishingly, accurate but highly expedient speech on how nearly 2.7 million of British Muslims have a ‘special role to play in combatting radicalisation as well as of course societal integration. I read it. And then pondered sadly. Why? First, the biggest threat to our society is in fact Islamaphobia. Next, all my tears are spent having tried to tackle communities like mine who refuse to progress and expel bad ideology. With no avail.
So how do we identify these Muslims? Listen to the testimony of women like me.
First an Infographic. Can you count how many pots of income or wealth a Muslim woman could potentially access?
Here are instructions for men to provide women with ‘Mahr’ dowry (4:4)
It all stems from the one word ‘wa-iḍ'ribūhunna’ which is also derived from and shares the root of the same word, which can mean ‘put forth’ and ‘cast away’ – in essence for men to move on and away. A good example is in fact the english word 'strike'. It can mean to hit or if in an employment context to remove your services or self from the field of engagement. Hence the Qu'ran, having extolled the virtue on gender equality (see 3:195 below), as well as passionate speech from Prophet Muhammed to be kind to women (where no reference is made of hitting a woman) - to then rely on this one verse (4:34) with the reference to 'strike' as a clear instruction to hit a woman - is utter ridiculous nonsense. But of course such dangerous translations of the Qu'ran perhaps are a clever way for bad Muslim men to oppress women by quickly promoting the text, stripped of the background, context verses I have just laid out to you. So that men can oppress women. This is wicked and is a travesty on the legacy of Prophet Muhammed and all that he stood for. After all if Allah wants husbands to hit wives – surely in ancient Arabic there is a direct way that could have been used. Such as punch/slap/hit/attack. In fact why no explicit instruction for ‘men hit your wife's bodies’? Yet the Qu'ran does not say this? Why would this ancient text be coy when in other subject matters it is very clear and uses harsher words to talk about the punishment intended for transgressors or wicked and cruel people.
Sura Al-Imran (3:195):
Next, the last sermon delivered by Prophet Muhammed, (PBUH) is here. The key points I observe are these. Why did he make it a point to ask men in the Seventh century, when women were deemed two a penny these words of advice:
“All mankind is from Adam and Eve" - clear reference to gender equality. He then goes on to say:
“O People! it is true that you have certain rights with regard to your women but they also have rights over you. Remember that you have taken them as your wives only under Allah's trust and with His permission. If they abide by your right then to them belongs the right to be fed and clothed in kindness. Do treat your women well and be kind to them for they are your partners and committed helpers. And it is your right that they do not make friends with anyone of whom you do not approve, as well as never to be unchaste."
His advice above is being given to those married or soon to marry Muslim men who were expected to protect and guard their women and wives in seventh century desert Arab peninsula. A region rife with inequality, rape, female infanticide, slavery. Remember - here was Islam which had already revealed verses of instructions from Qu'ran clearly stating it will stand up for us women. By insisting women be given her own independent access to money via inheritance. As well granting her permission to marry - as without her consent the marriage is not valid. Blimey. Can you believe that? No - not many in the world do today because they do not bother to look or read - and instead love to feed the narrative that Islam is a religion practiced by knuckle dragging gibbons. When in fact this is farthest from the truth as I present the evidence which I share here.
Why is Islam giving women their own economic wealth as financial status? Because such a status is critical in helping women lead a free, fulfilling life of respect free from violence and bad husbands. Mahr (wedding gift), maintenance, inheritance - thanks to all these rights listed in the Qu'ran, a Muslim woman stood to potentially be independently self-sufficient. In fact I would go further to say it was a welfare system designed to make women profitable at the expense of men. Which I expect must have irritated the hell out of a lot of Muslim men in Arab peninsula back in seventh century. It still does rankle among some Muslim men who I have heard whisper "Bloody hell - world thinks Muslim women are oppressed - they need to come talk to me my hair is falling out just paying up and out.
Islam demands men pay up as well as - wait for it - ensures a woman's own money is ring-fenced. No man is allowed to touch it - unless she gives of her wealth out of her own free will. "I pay for her and she gets to keep all her wealth' is what some Muslim men I know might be thinking. Well Islam's view and Sharia is clear - break the code and Muslim men are deemed to have sinned and broken Allah's covenant.
I often sit and read the guidance in his last sermon from Prophet Muhammed and feel sad how misunderstood he has gotten. I often wonder if the Prophet was seeking to sooth and quell those men who may be perhaps concerned the wife they are paying out for - might need calming down. In his sermon, he talks of women duty towards men. Of being tempted into bringing bad influence into the home. After all a Arab Muslim woman in seventh century who was left alone with money, while her husband was away on trade or war meant she can buy stuff. Be it drugs, drink, company of other men. Hence our Prophet's decision in this sermon is perhaps to balance the idea that men might be taken advantage of by women. Hence is is stating he also supports a husband's expectation wives remain monogomous to their man. And that they do not bring bad influence into the home (as after all Muslim men were often away for periods of time) nor betray a good man who is having to support her financially.
Anyhow. For anyone still reading this, can you now see proof that with Muslim women being given their own protection and income, consent for marriage - and right to divorce - can we not expect Muslim men in seventh century might feel unhappy to find they could not treat women as disposable garbage anymore? Gone was the custom for men to have sex, run loads of harems, abandon pregnant women and slaves without having to be financially responsible. All such good times were limited and stripped away from men by the Qu'ran? So that sentence and sermon from our Prophet now makes fair sense and all part of the gender parity I keep spotting in Qu'ran. Which is why Islam is huge passion of mine today as it gave more women rights than any other concept thereafter. Which is why I now laugh at non-Muslims who claim Islam oppresses women - it does not. Bad, ill informed 'Muslim' men who edit the Qu'ran do that - not Prophet Muhammed. Not Islam.
The original Muslim Feminists
Finally the rights and roles of women in Islam. The original feminists who are often hidden away as non-Muslims - often the world does not know of them. They helped Prophet Muhammed and were certainly active, intelligent and defended and supported him to establish Islam. Without them there could be no Islamic legacy. Funny that Isis do not mention these women.
Here is a visual I did of some of the women, we the world need to profile. And teach young Muslims to honour and accept as role models - aside from the Prophet Muhammed's male companions.
This is why I know Islam and Prophet Muhammed is afeminist. The world's first He For She.
Yet all these verses above I listed, Prophet Muhammed's Last Sermon and the feminist and economic rights for women were stripped out and missing from the educated British Muslim community I was born in. It is also stripped from ISIS/Daesh mantra. My family kept it deliberately hidden away from me. Instead choosing to focus on my modesty and lack of hijab (which in my opinion is a red herring - and why it irritates me when men talk down to us about it which I talk about over at my YouTube Channel MsYiY here). Isis do it the same but on a more wilder, crazier, stupid, evil level. And it is why I now speak out. And call for the reform of how Islam is taught. I want to make sure no other woman goes through what I went through.
Currently there is a horrific statistic that reveals that only one per cent of women globally have access to titled property.
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How I have launched a Change.Org petition asking that the roles and rights of women in Islam be taught as well as the famous women who Prophet Muhammed relied on to build his legacy – and that a more inspiring Islamic syllabus which includes a feminist agenda is available everywhere at the hands of visionary Sheikhs and Imams. So we can avoid young men and women growing up with terrible hate fuelled ideology cocked up by a bunch of bearded men with little scholastic integrity – often misogynist at heart.
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